Marriage Reconciliation: How To Forgive When It’s Hard?

How to forgive when it's hard?

“To err is human, to forgive is divine” or is it really divine? Can a human forgive too? Can you forgive too?

It may sound hard right now and it’s ok. You need not rush through to forgive just because it’s “the right thing” to do. If you are feeling angry, sad or painful right now, how about giving yourself some time and grace and allow yourself to be angry, sad or hurt? How about giving these feelings a day in the sun? When you feel ready, then come back and take a look at this forgiveness piece again and see what you’d like to do about it.

What is the best revenge?

Yeah, I know, right now all you can think of is to take revenge! To make him suffer, to let him know how much hurt you have and to let the whole world know how unfair you have been treated. It is understandable to feel that way. I felt the same too back then. But guess what’s the best revenge you can take? It’s actually a life well-lived! Living out the best way you can for yourself and enjoy every moment of your life is what you deserve! Once I have learnt this, my pessimistic and resentful perspective started to change, and I finally get to breathe! When I was holding onto that anger and hatred, I thought I was strangling him and giving him a hard time. Little did I know that the person whom I was suffocating was myself! Now that I learn to live again, I finally can let go and get the best revenge or rather, the best gift for myself!

So, are you ready to forgive?

Whatever answer you have in mind, it is ok! You are the expert of your life, and you get to choose what’s best for you. If you’d like to take a step forward and explore what is the next possible step for you and your relationship, book a free Discovery Call today! You are not alone!

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